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Community Counseling Resources (many accept MediCal)

 

Community Counseling Services

 

AlamedaFamily Services

2325 Clement Ave. Alameda, CA

(510) 629-6300

Takes Medi-Cal

 AlamedaCommunity Support Center (psychiatry)

1429 Oak Street, Alameda, CA

510-522-4668

Takes Medi-Cal

 West Coast Children’s Clinic

3301 E. 12th St. Oakland, CA

(510) 269-9043

Takes Medi-Cal

 La Clinica de la Raza

3451 East 12th Street, Oakland, CA

510-535-4000

Takes Medi-Cal

 Psychological Services Center

519 17th St # 210, Oakland, CA

(510) 628-9065

JFK University

2501 Harrison Street, Oakland

(510) 444-3344

No Medi-Cal

Asian Community Mental Health Services

310 8th Street, Oakland, CA

(510) 451-6729

Takes Medi-Cal

 Ann Martin Center

1250 Grand Avenue, Piedmont, CA

(510) 655-7880

Davis Street Family Resource Center

3081 Teagarden Street, San Leandro, CA
(510) 347-4620

Takes Medi-Cal

 Journey of Life Counseling and Assessment Services
1068 E. 14th St.

San Leandro, CA 94577

510.463.1302

journeyoflifecounseling.com

No Medi-Cal

 Free Vision Tests and Glasses

First Presbyterian Church of Berkeley
2407 Dana Street at Haste Street
Berkeley, CA 94704-2207
Voicemail: (510) 269-7242

 

 Crisis Hotlines

 

Youth Crisis Line (24 hours)                                                                     

1-800-843-5200

Free telephone crisis counseling, info and referral for youth (12-24), family and friends. Spanish speakers available.

 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (24 hours/7 days)                                        

1-800-273-8255

Collect calls accepted and 60 foreign languages spoken. Support and counseling for suicidal people. Referrals to ongoing counseling and mental health programs.

 Crisis Line, Crisis Support Services for Alameda County (24 hours/7 days)  

1-800-309-2131

Additionally grief counseling, in-home senior counseling, suicide survivor groups, groups for suicide attempters and community debriefing can call 1-800-260-0094.

 National Runaway Switchboard (24 hours)                                               

1-800-621-4000

Provide crisis intervention, info and referral for runaway youth and parents of runaways. Also offers message services for parents and youth, and connection to home-free transportation services.

 Rape Crisis Hotlines (24 hours)

Alameda County (Bay Area Women Against Rape)                                    

510-845-7273

Telephone crisis lines for victims of sexual violence. Also provides info regarding medical care, police and court procedures and other follow-up services.

 ACCESS: Alameda County Behavioral Healthcare Program                              

1-800-491-9099

Referrals and info for people with Medi-Cal insurance.

 California AIDS/HIV Hotline (9-5 p.m. M-F, till 9 p.m. on Tues)            

 1-800-367-2437

Provides info and referrals within the state regarding all aspects of HIV and AIDS (medical, emotional, practical support, test sites). Provides literature upon request.

 Child Abuse Hotline (24 hours/7 days)                                                                 

1-800-422-4453

Hotline for children who are victims of family violence, for parents involved with family violence and for adult survivors of child abuse. Also provide literature related to children’s health, safety issues and general referrals to other services and hotlines.

Proactive Strategies That Can Prevent Bullying

Families that are nurturing and caring and set clear limits can prevent bullying as well as victimization.  If you want to prevent your child from becoming a bully or a victim:

  • Teach your child to be both strong and kind;
  • Encourage your child to be a good friend because good friends don't bully;
  • Only use nonphysical discipline to correct inappropriate behavior;
  • Monitor the whereabouts of your child;
  • Know your child's friends and make sure everyone understands your view of teasing and violence;
  • Set a good example by exercising appropriate conflict resolution;
  • Make sure your child understands that there are consequences for aggressive behavior;
  • Teach your child not to hit or fight back; it often only makes things worse;
  • Allow your child to feel what they feel but help them find ways to express their angry  feelings without hurting others;
  • Listen to your child's concerns.  Let him or her know that you have time for what ever concerns them;
  • Talk with your child about computer ethics, and establish rules of conduct and consequences for misuse of the internet and or email;
  • Instruct your child to never share his or her passwords or get into an argument with someone online;
  • Monitor your child's television, video, and internet viewing and make sure it is appropriate;
  • Set rules for instant messaging (IM), texting, and monitor your child's use of chat rooms;
  • If you have weapons in your home, make sure they are secured!

(Williams, Esther.  The Bully, The Bullied and Beyond.  YouthLight, Inc. 2007)

Characteristics of Families That Bully

Family practices in early childhood are clearly associated with later antisocial and delinquent behaviors.  While many bullying behaviors are learned in the home, it is important to note that not all bullies are the product of violent or neglectful homes. 

  • The home lives of bullies often lack nurturing and include neglect, rejection, emotional coldness and little affection. 
  • The parents of bullies are more likely to use abusive physical punishment inconsistently in their discipline. 
  • Bullies often experience a greater likelihood of a chaotic home environment.  There are frequent parent conflicts, divorces, parent and stepparents coming in and leaving the home repeatedly and moves are common. 
  • The families of bullies are more likely to be socially isolated.  There is a conscious effort to cut the family off from friends and extended family visitations.  The parents teach their children to distrust people outside their family. 
  • Child-rearing practices in the home are randomly administered and usually ineffective.  Children never know from one day to the next what will be acceptable and what will be punished. 
  • There is usually a lack of monitoring of the TV, movies, Internet, friends, music, videos, and grades. 
  • Families seldom use problem solving strategies and violence is considered a solution. 
  • Families of bullies often have substance abuse issues and the children see and have access to inappropriate activities. 

(Williams, Esther.  The Bully, The Bullied and Beyond.  YouthLight, Inc. 2007)

Characteristics of Families of Victims

Being a victim of bullying may also indicate that there are problems in the family dynamics. 

  • There may be sibling abuse or abuse by the parents in the home.  Victims at home are more likely to be victims at school. 
  • The families of victims often have financial and/or marital problems.  Children feel insecure and often don't have the clothing and "stuff" that the other students have. 
  • The families of victims may be overly emotionally involved and entangled in their children's difficulties.  Parents consistently rescue their child and the child then fails to develop appropriate problem solving skills. 
  • The families of victims may become deeply involved in responding to the child's troubles.  The more suffering the child experiences, the more the child depends on his or her parents to "save" him or her. 
  • The child's identity becomes that of a victim and the parents chronic rescuing reinforces this identity.  There is often over-dependence by the victim on the parents for support. 
  • The parents may also have deficits in their social skills and therefore unable to help their children learn appropriate social skills. 

(Williams, Esther.  The Bully, The Bullied and Beyond.  YouthLight, Inc. 2007)

Sibling Abuse

Sibling abuse is more common than spousal or parent-child abuse.  With more and more blended families and more children left in the care of siblings, this abuse is on the rise.  It occurs when sibling interactions become violent and the sibling feels powerless to stop the interaction.  If one sibling is consistently singled out, abuse is occuring. 

  • Allow your child to have negative feelings toward his or her sibling(s).  Encourage him or her to talk about these feelings. 
  • Help your child express his or her feelings in appropriate ways and explain how he or she would like to be treated. 
  • Help your child express his or her negative feelings in a creative outlet.  Have him or her write a letter or draw a picture expressing his or her feelings. 
  • Encourage physical activities to expel angry feelings.  Help your child learn to calm down after a conflict and relax. 
  • Always intervene and stop hurtful behavior but require the children to practice problem solving. 
  • Never make comparisons between children and avoid labeling your children.  Express what you like about each child without comparing. 
  • Make it clear to all your children that you expect them to settle conflict without violence. 
  • Some squabbling needs to be ignored but intervene when one of the children becomes unhappy with the behavior. 
  • When you intervene in your children's disputes, model problem solving skills.  Ask the following questions and take your children through this process:
  1. What is the problem?
  2. What are some possible solutions?
  3. Which solution are you going to choose?

Check with the children later and ask:  How is the solution working?